So I Hear its Freaky Friday???

So0o here you guys go, this article includes female and couple friendly sex toys that’ll give u such an extraordinary orgasm it will leave you feeling energized and glowing from the inside out people. But don’t just take my word for it; nothing is better than hands on experience.

Because I am so0o0o nice I included the Top 5 sex toys for women and top 5 sexual enhancers for men…POW!

top sexpert Lisa Turner
"Sexual energy is the most potent on the planet. The key is to access it, master it and harness it. Once you have harnessed it, you can use it in any way you choose. But first you need to access it and sex toys are a great way to do this."

1. Eroscillator 2 Plus -This is a entry level package, that includes not 1, not 2 but 6 HEADS including the Golden Spoon Attachment! Exceptional clitoral stimulation from a mains-powered vibrator.They say most women don’t experience their first true orgasm till their late 20’s or later which means all the feelings we’ve come accustom to experiencing is just Childs play. This toy is specially designed for the female Love Zone and can be just what women who have never had an orgasm need

2. Erotic Rocket Mini Vibrator- let’s face it, a lot of women do not like the thought of sticking a huge ass rubber dildo into their love nest. The mere thought of forcing something not so discrete in your own va jay jay is a huge turn off & seems like too much work. I myself will be the first to admit i don't really mess with dildos b/c they are intimidating but, this little toy is the right gadget for the job. Its small size makes it easy to hide and since it has a great range of different pulsing rhythms and vibrations, it makes exploring your body simple.It includes 10 patterns and speeds, and featuring truly powerful vibrations, this is said to be a bedside essential.

3. Glass Dildos- Well, Once u have mastered and overcame the art of fear and are ready to venture out and progress beyond clitoral orgasms it's time to find the G-Spot. Please be advised, the G spot can be and is, a bit sensitive, especially if a dude has never hit the bottom of the pussy hole & while on his way there stimulated the ALL MIGHTY G-SPOT. The Problem with stimulating that area is a vibration might be too intense to start with, so you might want to start off slow which is why a dildo preferbly glass is ideal. Glass Dildo’s are ridiculously smooth and are perfect for G-spot stimulation due to their rigidity, most have great range and there are even some that are especially designed for the G-spot. Just choose what's ideal for you.

4. The Jack Rabbit/ Jessica Rabbit- What’s an all time greatest sex toy list for female stimulation without including the legendary rabbit? For dual, clitoral and G-spot stimulation this toy is perfect for you it was considered remarkable when it first came out years ago and even till today is still breaking records. If you only buy one toy in your lifetime, which most people do, this is a must have.

5. Oriental Ben We Balls/Love eggs- These are ideal gadgets and toys that’ll not only help you stimulate your most intimate of areas but also tone your pelvic floor muscles and make it super tight. 2 for one doesn’t get any better now does it?

Peep this site for ideal toys for purchase and research “http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/”

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OF course it would be rather inconsiderate of me to only inform women on how to get their rocks off and not men...plus I am by no means a STINGY LOVER (pun intended).

So here I present the top 5 sex toys for dual pleasure

1. Good head Gel/Motion Lotion- No surprise that men enjoy a certified brain surgeon so why not have fun while exploring oral sex. Good head products ensure the effortless glide of the penis in the mouth while making it extra wet, o0o and did I mention, it comes in a variety of flavors also…yummy. Now Motion lotion is your typical warming/edible gel which elevates sex to another level wet, warm, and juicy what more does a man need?

2. Semenex- So you say you wish your girl would just suck it up and swallow eh?? This product is made with a proprietary blend of fruits, vegetables, and vitamins. As a powdered supplement it will naturally remove the bitterness and salt taste of semen and add a bit of sweetness. But keep in mind it takes about 12 HRS to set into affect which means fellas, man up and atleast do this one thing for your woman!

3. Cock and ball harness/ Double Diver - This toy here is actually a sexy accessory that is sure to please both you and your partner. It works to enhance clitoral stimulation by vibration. It is great for her, while you enjoy a stronger and longer lasting erection. OWWW!

4. Slave Kit- Why not take her on an adventure once in a while. Wrist & Ankle Restraints, bondage tape, blindfold’s, feathers, whips, and chains are all perfect ways to dominate your woman or be dominated if that’s your type of thing. Always a plus to introduce and explore a Slave kit

5. Flesh light- ok I just put this up here for pure entertainment but I’m sure there are some men out there who would be more than happy to use this I mean you guys beat off on a regular anyway why not be assisted? Flesh lights are soft, pliable Real Feel Super Skin® masturbation sleeves & are made from a patented, high-quality material designed to replicate the sensation of penetrative sex.

Hit these sites for purchase or extended descriptions http://www.edenfantasys.com/ or “http://www.fleshlight.com/”

THIRSTY THURSDAY

Thirsty thursdays, lets keep it trill everybodys aim is to get crunk. Whether u swisha housin, drinkin, or preparing for a sexcapade this is the shit i keep

in ROTATION as of TODAY.

MySpace Playlist at MixPod.com

1. Mullage ft t-pain- trickin= Not sure how old this song is “Allegedly” it’s their new single but you know how that goes, I saw their video a few days ago for this song & blew it off, my bad son the shit is hot.
2. Rick Ross & Triple C's Ft. Birdman – Go=Point blank period this song goes hard, Triple C’s been in the game for a minute and hasn’t gotten the shine he deserves...so0o enjoy
3.Ludacris & Shawnna - Everybody Drunk as fuck= Personally when I hear this song I don’t know whether I should be passin the swisha or tip drillin, the beat alone makes me wanna pussy pop.
4.Gucci Mane Ft. Trey Songz- Beat It Up= Def a song I could fuck to.
.5. G-Mack Feat Bobby V -- Get Naked= While we’re on the subject of fucking, this shit right here is sure to get shawty naked.(pun intended)
6.Fabolous F/ Drake- Throw It in the Bag=Its loso in case u didn’t noso.. what’s a playlist if this song isn’t included…right?
7.Gucci Mane ft nicki minaj- Slumber Party=Yes this is old & was on the beam me up Scotty mixtape along with many Gucci mixtapes long ago, but I puff puff passed to this song many times..and it brings back memories..Lol *CLASSIC” kush song & plus who dosn't enjoy nicki minaj's stank ass?
8.Jae Millz – Wetter= This is type old also but *CLASSIC* Love Jae millz so I mean what else is there to say he made a fuck song by twista even more fuckable! Owww!

Damn Ma! Your just gonna GUZZLE it down like that?

I stumbled upon this video like 2days ago and it validates what many have known for years. Face it ladies, times have changed. In the year 2009 I still come in contact with women who gag at the mere thought of inserting a penis into their mouth. Some women believe oral sex is not an important component of sex but men beg to differ. Oral sex can turn sex …into great sex & beyond if skills are properly executed. Which brings me to

PA YOW 101: THOU SHALL TOP HIM OFF.

Firstly, it is all about being in the right state of mind. If you approach fellatio as something that disgusts you or that its more so like doing a chore you minus well not bother doing it at all & yes expect your man to cheat because “what one cutie won’t do another one will” comprende? Women tend to think oral sex is degrading which goes back to the whole mindset scenario, in reality giving head gives you the opportunity to take control, it can provide the one giving it, empowerment with infinite possibilities to be creative and provide amazing pleasure. I actually believe when we take negative attitudes toward our sex life then the true beauty of love and sex is derided. Below are some tips to help elevate the experience for both sexes. I mean obviously you won’t be like lethal lips here, but there’s nothing wrong with working with what you got and improving your skills

1.First and foremost, once again, you have to be in the right State of Mind…Say it with me now “whoooo…Saaaa”. You will never be able to give excellent brain without open-minded desire guiding it.

2. If you weren’t exactly blessed with big lips or have a hard time monitoring your teeth Slide your lips gently over your teeth for smooth sailing. A nigga doesn’t want you to literally CHEW the dick so don’t teeth his shit.

3.Good head involves licking, kissing, usage of your hands, Keeping it lubricated (spit on it) and rubbing the pipe anywhere else on your body (ex breast & mouth) because this provides amazing visual stimulation and remember to multi-task. See, if you are not using other techniques with your tongue, lips, hands and fingers then you are probably giving a rather boring BJ so keep that in mind.

4.You must know your limits. Although the cause of gagging is usually psychological you have to remind yourself to relax your jaw and throat muscles as much as you can. Tensing of the mouth as a nervous reaction when you think the penis is moving to your esophagus will cause your ass to gag for real and even puke which brings me to my next point

5. Deep throating is essential. Deep throating makes the head snug, warm, & wet. Once again the relaxation of your jaw and throat muscles is key. When you come to the decision that you are willing to deep throat make sure to take it one step at a time. Every time you insert the penis in make sure to inch it in farther & farther each time. But hold on, when doing this method you are most likely cutting off your air supply so learn to breathe through your nostrils or take breaks by using your hand b/c you don’t want to mess up the pleasurable flow ya dig? There are lubricants out there for people to use if deep throating is really just not their forte. I have also heard of people using Chloraseptic Throat Spray or children's teething gel. Keep in mind though, if you use something to numb your throat, and you do not put a condom on him, he will be numbed as well.

6. As gross as this may sound, you must remember not to neglect the balls or head. When it comes to the nads do whatever you decide is most comfortable to you, whether it be licking, sucking, or fondling but never leave them just hanging (pun intended). Also always make sure to pay special attention to the head of the dick. See top'ing off is not just about simply massaging the shaft you have to play with the head as well.



7.Lastly, to spit or to swallow that is the question? Point, Blank, Period Semen is not unhealthy, fattening (the average ejaculation is approximately 15 calories), and it will not get you pregnant &It contains calcium so it may do a body good lol. But no, all jokes aside this is a personal decision that should be made by you (or your partner). The ejaculate of someone who ingests lots of red meat, caffeine, alcohol or cigarettes (most men’s diet), may taste more intense than that of a non-smoking vegetarian, but I’m getting off subject here there’s plenty of time down the line for an article on BABY SIPPINING. Although I hear it’s a complete turn on for dudes to be able to cum wherever they please, personally if you ask me this is not SPLASH SEASON so here are a few ways to be discrete without allowing him to make it rain in your mouth & call it a baby shower: You can take it in your mouth and discreetly deposit into a nearby towel-or as your partner approaches climax, withdraw and finish with your hand- and you can even let your partner come on your body and admire the copious amounts of ejaculate(sorry, even i grossed myself out with that one).

Lights, Camera, SPOTLIGHT

*The America’s Most Wanted tour*

As the end of July quickly approaches I thought it would be appropriate to shine light on what may turn out to be the biggest event of this dry ass summer… The tour kicked off July 27th in PA and is set to end in Dallas Texas , I myself am rather disappointed that they are performing in Saratoga NY rather than in Manhattan @ Madison Square garden’s but I’ll live. The tour features Lil Wayne, Young Jeezy, Drake, and Soulja Boy. “Allegedly” Jeremih & Pleasure p will be joining for some legs of the tour but we shall see. Tickets went on sale July 20th and a limited amount are still available at many of the venues. Below is some exclusive footage of the first night of the tour & the tour dates as well…*smo0ches*

07-27 Scranton, PA – Toyota Pavilion

07-29 Saratoga, NY – Performing Arts Center

07-30 Pittsburgh, PA – Post Gazette Pavilion

07-31 Philadelphia, PA – Susquehanna Bank Center

08-01 Wantagh, NY – Jones Beach Theater

08-02 Virginia Beach, VA – Verizon Wireless Amphitheater

08-04 Toronto, Ontario – Molson Amphitheater

08-05 Montreal, Quebec – Bell Centre

08-06 Cleveland, OH – Blossom Pavilion

08-07 Washington, DC – Nissan Pavilion08-

08 Raleigh, NC – Walnut Creek Amphitheater

08-09 Atlanta, GA – Lakewood Amphitheater

08-12 Phoenix, AZ – Cricket Wireless Amphitheater

08-13 Los Angeles, CA – TBD

08-14 Irvine, CA – Verizon Wireless Amphitheater

08-15 Concord, CA – Sleep Train Pavilion

08-17 Vancouver, British Columbia – GM Place

08-18 Edmonton, Alberta – Rexall Place

08-20 Denver, CO – Fiddler’s Green Amphitheatre

08-22 Houston, TX – Cynthia Woods Mitchell Pavilion

08-23 Dallas, TX – Superpages.com Center

TIDBITS

WHERE THEY DO THAT AT ?
So Teddy Graham & Christina were spotted at 10AK in New York last night for BET’s Rising Stars segment honoring Keri Hilson. Apparently the show premiered either last night or the day before on B.E.T with Chrisette Michelle, I mean, I personally wouldn’t know because I DO just fine without watching all the shucking and jiving that takes place on that network. But most importantly, How DARE Christina exit the car without her shoes...1. No Boss Bitch would be caught dead walking the streets of NY shoeless and 2. Under no circumstance do christian louboutin’s come off, we wear them shits with pride & TAKE THE PAIN LIKE A MOTHA FUCKIN G...oh no its official she is DEF not a bossette...smh

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Apparently NY was where it was @
Chris brown Was spotted in NY as well this past weekend; he played in the annual Entertainer’s Basketball Classic with his team against DJ Webster All-Stars. I also see Chris brown is going in with the tattoos & has pretty much completed one sleeve and looks to be working on the other. I love a bad boy...he is a bad boy now right? Slapping bitches up, having a rap...tat tat tatted up...yep he's a "bad boy" & ME-A-LOOKIN & ME-A-LIKEIN. POW!

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Whelp! Can’t talk about one without the other
Princess Rih Rih hit the drenched streets of NY as well, sporting this ensemble...man she’s such a fashionista: rolls eyes: I guess denim jumpers & berets are officially back in style according to rhi so expect to see much more of this ensemble in the weeks ahead coming to a hood near you.

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The Carters

Also, Bey & J-were spotted shopping in New York this past Saturday. First off let me start by saying I absolutely heart Beyonce & the shoes are def BAD (which are ysl's aka Yves Saint Laurent ,for the slow ones, by the way) but I cant help but notice this is the first time in a while that we seen bey out without her Dancer tights. Her legs are looking a little aged, so0o could it be? Could it be that legs are actually the key to figuring out a woman’s age? They say that legs are the first to go & everything else just follows, but I’m sure Tina Turner would beg to differ.

O0o yea I got this video in my e-mail earlier today and find it hilarious...oh poor camel face luckily for you Beyonce actually UPGRADED you. IT’S CAMELGATE BITCHES!

Well on a happier note

here is Beyonce’s new ad for her Sasha Fierce for Dereon line

Hmmm?? Don't know if I’ll be caught dead in those outfits b/c shit Dereon was a reach...but I have to admit just looking at this ad makes me want to stand up and say "I...AM...Sasha Fierce"

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Boy Bye!

Bow wow was up to his old bag of tricks and in his latest display of coonary & buffoonery, decided it would be nice to twit pic the latest video vixen to top him off. Rumor is the chick is none other than Rosa Acosta, which is a relief b/c those man hands were rather suspect.

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Now these bitches are bad!

Now, last but certainly not least are my two absolute faves

Amber rose & Nicki Minaj were spotted hanging backstage at the America’s Most Wanted Tour in Philly. The tour began last night and features Lil Wayne, Young Jeezy, Drake, Soulja Boy, Jeremih & Pleasure P. Sounds like its pretty bad ass. I wonder if Amber has any plans on munchin down Mrs. Minaj in the near future, now thats a bad bitch COMBO, Eh? I guess we gotta tune in..lol

And Now, for your visual pleasure, here is Nicki Minaj performing at the Velvet Room in Baltimore, Maryland about 3days ago..ENJOY

So, How thick are you REALLY willing to go?

The article is for women, but I also POSE the question to MEN, How Thick are you really willing to go & when is thick to0 thick?

So as I was writing the article for thou shall not swirl I came across another issue that’s up for dispute as well. Now I can even admit to pondering over this same question many times in my life so far and I’m only 22. DAMN, AM I FAT OR THICK? I have once sat in on a conversation my male cousins were having where they basically argued when to decide if a woman is just stacked or is just plain ole fat and even I was stumped. What is the real difference between fat & thick?? Is it based on how the weight is carried & proportioned? Well, I’m happy to report that after conducting “extensive” research (giggling) I can now answer this unreciprocated question.

First let me state the obvious, a THICK woman is curvy and has a nice figure and is made up of nothing but meat & potatoes, & yea she’s a brick house because she’s fully STACKED like the international house of pancakes. Thick is the middle point between thin and fat and may actually be considered overweight by all medical standards. Bria Myles, Back in the day Beyonce, and Toccara are all different versions of thick. See thick can be measured by waist to hip ratio, because if a woman’s waist is two-thirds the size of her hips or less aka if her waist to hip (WHR) is 0.67 or less, she is most likely thick. Also thick is categorized and often associated with having an hourglass or pear-shaped figure. Hourglass shapes are pretty much the only and ideal body shape for all women who harvest curves. Majority of women strive to be fat in the ass, thick in the hips, and slim in the waist which is evident by how popular injections of the buttocks as well as Brazilian butt lifts have become (I’m looking to get me one as well...lol). Men are always talking about how much they admire women who have a little more to grab onto during the sex session and how when they hold their woman they do not want to feel her bones. But, when is a woman no longer thick but actually fat?

Fat is often categorized as being sloppy which is really just a mean way of saying ill-proportioned and men tend to believe women who have gained so much weight that they have little or no figure left are still fat & no longer thick. Sorry to disappoint but for those who feel that beyonce is just a skinny woman with curves & Queen latifah ( who is very beautiful I may add) is a true thick woman is just in denial. I feel as though if you are 5’5 or shorter and walk around with your shoes leaning perhaps you should seek a nutritionist or diet doctor because that is in no way healthy, because height & weight plays a huge role In the proportionally “thick” game. My opinion is simply this, whether you’re thick, fat or thin Health and confidence is key. Your weight only becomes unhealthy, when you have problems breathing after a walk across the street or a brief jog and that can go for all women of all sizes because thin doesn’t always mean in shape. I’ve met many frail and unhealthy thin chicks. All in All no matter what your size is, as long as you keep it tight nice butt, legs, hips, & curves actual weight shouldn’t be too much of a concern. !DISCUSS!

When F*cking for checks goes wrong

Remember Larissa” boots” Hodge what great eye candy she was right? I mean no one really expected any of the chicks on flavor of love to be the least bit attracted to flavor flav for his cockroach appeal but I mean she played a good game. She even tried to project herself as the nice girl who doesn’t have sex with just anybody she “Saves herself”. I always talk about how women need to learn how to use that almighty PA YOW for more profitable ventures but this my dear is when FUCKING FOR CHECKS GOES WRONG

There is never any excuse for a former video girl/ass model to look like this. Granted she just had a baby so for that I excuse the “baby weight”…but chick was fat when the flavor of love reunion rolled around 2 yrs ago. I hope she had a backup plan b/c clearly any little bit of career she had left is over. Sometimes when I see women like her, who were in the field of tip drill’n, have kids I just pray it was done for true love. It’ s fucked up for a child to be raised in a single parent household because their parent saw them as a cash cow. WHICH BRINGS ME TO

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PAY YOW 101: Thou shall not pimp thy uterus
Never under any circumstance should a woman get pregnant in hopes that it will keep the money train coming in. Women who get pregnant to keep an endless supply of income, to sustain their semi-luxury lifestyle, always end up in a man-down situation. When you’re pulling rank solely by appearance and minimal skills you have to rely on your physical goodies to carry you through ,which means “you should be in some sense hard to obtain. The good girl gone bad is what keeps dudes interested. Of course a man can never truly turn a hoe into a house wife, that’s why as women, we should never allow ourselves to be placed into the hoe category. “Whoreing” is all about presentation and the whole “if it looks like a dog or barks like a dog it is a dog” scenario. The word hoe which is habitually thrown around was made up by vengeful men who believed women shouldn’t be allowed to do as they b/c, of the conviction that, we are pure and innocent and shall forever remain that way. As a result, women must make sure to avoid being placed into that category and having a “fatherless” child does not help. Trying to seek a man while raising another ones child allows the value of your stock to plummet because some men are not willing to take on that kind of responsibility. I’m in no way testifying that having a child out of wed lock is wrong but we have to be real with ourselves. Every man is not an appropriate father figure for your child and having a kid will limit the type of men that'll approach you and even more so wife you. Now, for those of you who may have kids as a result of a sticky situation never introduce your child/children to just any male figure, but then again don’t hide them either, your child should never be plced on the back burner for anyone. Men actually have respect for woman who take pride in their child or children just like we have a soft spot for men who exhibit the same behavior, so when selling yourself you must sell the child as well …it’s a package deal because if a man is not willing to accept you and your child right then & there then he’s not worth your time. It’s also very important for women who have children to refrain from any sexual activity with any man before you two are exclusive. Having sex will make you feel like Lust is love & will only complicate things further.

Who said talent really mattered?

Lil Kim was doing it big @Mansion in Miami for her birthday last Thursday & yes she was looking like money as usual. She is a True rag to riches story, but did she really ever have talent?? Rumors have been circulating for years that biggie was her ghostwriter and honestly I believe the speculation to be true. As a true queen bee fan I will have to admit she hasn’t gone hard since Notorious Kim. The Naked truth was decent but nothing compared to her earlier projects. I still love her but even I must ask kimmy what were you thinking? Cindy Lauper? Oh, But you’re kidding?

Now I Def remember watching the What Them Girls Like video and turning to my girls and saying “who is that chick with the blonde fade, she carries it well, she’s a bad bish”. But since then, the pressure of relevance has taken a toll on ole girl and she booked a flight on the bull shit express with the only rapper true to the game of fuckary Mr. Kanye West himself. Since she first emerged on his arm earlier this year people have been in her ass. She’s been a video vixen for some years now and before that yes was an “erotic dancer” in Philly .She has come up in the world, I stumbled upon this video a few days ago & evidently she was out with her ford model buddies… Well, at least she has a likable personality.

“Oh BUT you’re kidding”

So Karrine Superhead Steffans is on a book tour trying to sell the “vixen manuals”. Apparently she feels she has the credentials needed to advise women on how to keep a man. What kills me about this woman is that she once lived by that SLHORE mentality that “Closed mouths don’t get fed” and basically leased out her jaw bone for any willing suitor if the price was right. Everyone has done things in the past that they may not be so proud of, but to sell your soul to the devil in the form of paper back and air all your dirty deeds for Cash mula is sad. But the saddest part of it all is that once she reaped the financial benefits and is living lavishly she wants everyone to pretend it never happened. She has openly admitted that she does not prefer to do interviews with “black media” because they are too judgmental and ignorant but it appears to me that the “white media” is no longer trying to deal with her bull shit ether they have discovered what we all already knew…Superhead are you still too proud to beg?

Welp! Rump shaker in a couple of videos pretty much sums up her resume, word of advice Karrine, please stop pretending to be holier-than-thou when your pussy has more mileage than Nascar. No one wants advice on how to keep a man from a woman who has failed time & time again in making the transition from Jump off to wife. Do us a favor and write a better follow up to diary of a video vixen because that confessions book was tired.

What a slumber party?

I stumbled upon this video a While ago and honestly just posted it out of pure selfishness, I find it hilarious..I mean really though What is the deal with the young white girls loving Gucci Mane's ass?? He is definitly not attractive at ALL

Eh??.i guess they enjoy a little thug as well

Wait…But did she really say she’d let Gucci hit raw?? Aw Man I can’t..lol

He's With whoo0o??

Why thou shall Swirl??

So rumor is reggie and kim K have finally called it quits. I thought it would be rather interesting to bring up a question that many black woman have been asking themselves for years. Why do black men (in particular) prefer to swirl? No one will ever know for sure the true reasons behind the science of interracial dating, but I must confess, I am often disturbed by what I hear and read. Black women are often described as having a tough exterior, often described as moody, irritable and bitter. Some men have even gone as far as to say white women take better care of themselves overall, because we call ourselves thick, when we are really fat (allegidly), and since men are visual creatures, they go for that, which by the way is so0o un-true because 50% of caucasuion women are overweight as well. But Regardless, There is something about our demeanor that is perceived as intimidating. I would say it is because there are more black women "working" in corporate America, holding top positions despite adversity that it can be quite intimidating to any man. Even now in the year 2009 the ratio of black women to men in college is 7-1. We often are perceived to be materialistic and “high maintenance” but is it really wrong to aspire to have the finer things in life? I have to admit as black women, we tend to bring a lot of emotional baggage to our relationships for a variety of reasons. Culturally, we do not allow ourselves the joy of going to therapy: however, we may want to reconsider that notion,if we want our relationships to flourish. I use to believe black men wanted an equal mate-someone who caters to them and their needs, but sometimes find that absent in their relationships because they often go for the trophy wife or someone who would be widely accepted in society. I also feel as black women on occasions, we tend to spoil our children, but forget to spoil the very one who supports the family.

Now, I will openly admit that I am completely bias when it comes to this subject because I truly believe that Black Men are being ostracized from a society predominantly ran by White America, and adapting white social ideologies of power. By men choosing to degrade black women in music videos and music lyrics, society sometimes evnvisons black women to be one of two things: A rump shaker or a "Mad Black woman". So with that said if Rapper's are getting away with degrading us, are we any better for allowing it? If it’s one thing that bothers a Black Man, it is always being criticized or judged, especially from our own counterpart within our own culture. We (myself included) are very rarely afraid to voice our distress which leads to Black men wanting to explore other options, because they feel as if women of other cultures will tolerate what they lack and also be open-minded enough to fulfill "all of their needs;" sexually, mentally, and emotionally. Black women on the other hand will try to fix whatever quality the man may lack by always chastising them in an effort to eventually fix whatever their flaw may be Which often leads him to push us away “Get off my back woman!”.

With the way black women are portrayed on shows like Tiny & Toya, Real housewives of Atlanta & various reality shows is the perception of black women being angry, upset or astringent really a misconception? With that said I don't think we should blame ourselves for black men choosing to date outside their race. This article was simply written to stimulate open discussion in regards to the “black woman” . I do believe people in general have finally come to understand that when you put limits on love you may not end up with good results. Plus we must not forget about curiosity. If you spend your whole life being told you can't do something..As soon as you get out on your own.. you may do it. Because I am a black woman who was raised in a strong black household, I would love to see more solid black families setting the foundation for other generations, but love is love and it’s unpredictable You cannot decide who you will fall in love with, and you’re lucky to have found true love at least once in your lifetime and setting limitations will make it a rough journey.