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Why thou shall Swirl??

So rumor is reggie and kim K have finally called it quits. I thought it would be rather interesting to bring up a question that many black woman have been asking themselves for years. Why do black men (in particular) prefer to swirl? No one will ever know for sure the true reasons behind the science of interracial dating, but I must confess, I am often disturbed by what I hear and read. Black women are often described as having a tough exterior, often described as moody, irritable and bitter. Some men have even gone as far as to say white women take better care of themselves overall, because we call ourselves thick, when we are really fat (allegidly), and since men are visual creatures, they go for that, which by the way is so0o un-true because 50% of caucasuion women are overweight as well. But Regardless, There is something about our demeanor that is perceived as intimidating. I would say it is because there are more black women "working" in corporate America, holding top positions despite adversity that it can be quite intimidating to any man. Even now in the year 2009 the ratio of black women to men in college is 7-1. We often are perceived to be materialistic and “high maintenance” but is it really wrong to aspire to have the finer things in life? I have to admit as black women, we tend to bring a lot of emotional baggage to our relationships for a variety of reasons. Culturally, we do not allow ourselves the joy of going to therapy: however, we may want to reconsider that notion,if we want our relationships to flourish. I use to believe black men wanted an equal mate-someone who caters to them and their needs, but sometimes find that absent in their relationships because they often go for the trophy wife or someone who would be widely accepted in society. I also feel as black women on occasions, we tend to spoil our children, but forget to spoil the very one who supports the family.

Now, I will openly admit that I am completely bias when it comes to this subject because I truly believe that Black Men are being ostracized from a society predominantly ran by White America, and adapting white social ideologies of power. By men choosing to degrade black women in music videos and music lyrics, society sometimes evnvisons black women to be one of two things: A rump shaker or a "Mad Black woman". So with that said if Rapper's are getting away with degrading us, are we any better for allowing it? If it’s one thing that bothers a Black Man, it is always being criticized or judged, especially from our own counterpart within our own culture. We (myself included) are very rarely afraid to voice our distress which leads to Black men wanting to explore other options, because they feel as if women of other cultures will tolerate what they lack and also be open-minded enough to fulfill "all of their needs;" sexually, mentally, and emotionally. Black women on the other hand will try to fix whatever quality the man may lack by always chastising them in an effort to eventually fix whatever their flaw may be Which often leads him to push us away “Get off my back woman!”.

With the way black women are portrayed on shows like Tiny & Toya, Real housewives of Atlanta & various reality shows is the perception of black women being angry, upset or astringent really a misconception? With that said I don't think we should blame ourselves for black men choosing to date outside their race. This article was simply written to stimulate open discussion in regards to the “black woman” . I do believe people in general have finally come to understand that when you put limits on love you may not end up with good results. Plus we must not forget about curiosity. If you spend your whole life being told you can't do something..As soon as you get out on your own.. you may do it. Because I am a black woman who was raised in a strong black household, I would love to see more solid black families setting the foundation for other generations, but love is love and it’s unpredictable You cannot decide who you will fall in love with, and you’re lucky to have found true love at least once in your lifetime and setting limitations will make it a rough journey.